Why Not Me?: A Guide to Make Progress on Your Dreams

Some motivation to get out of your mid-year slump:

Reflect on your resolutions

It’s currently the 29th of June. We’re officially on the cusp of the 2nd half of the year! Where did the time go? 

This is the perfect time to look back on your New Year’s Resolutions and see how far you’ve come. Often, we leave our goals on pieces of paper that we haven’t returned to after New Years. At the end of the year, we are struck with the feeling that we didn’t do anything worth celebrating. (Which is why we ALL need to journal, but that’s another post!)


Confront yourself 

If you, like so many others, have been making slow progress on your dreams, you need to confront some facts. Get in touch with why you haven’t been able to make things happen.

Are you afraid of going to the gym and looking like a newbie? Does applying for your dream job fill you with fear? Do you think your friends won’t like you if you stop hanging out with them all the time to focus on your side hustle? Are the stares people will give you if you wear the same outfit too much for you to save your money? Will you miss watching TV instead of learning a new language? 


Folks, you got to listen to me here. I’m going to give you some advice.

Life tip: don’t use laziness or fear to stop you from chasing your dreams!

Chasing your dreams Life tip

That’s right. You’re the problem. You are making excuses for yourself instead of going after what you really want. You are operating out of a limiting mindset. Your fear and lack of faith in yourself are allowing you to excuse yourself out of the life you want.

Stop telling yourself “why does she always get what she wants?” or “why does he have a job that I want?” Start asking yourself “Why not me?

Why not me? Why can’t I have the job and body that I want? Why can’t I chase after the dreams that I have?

Have you ever noticed that when your boss wants you to get something done or your professor wants you to do an assignment you get it done, even if it means pulling an all-nighter? But when it comes to yourself, you always say, “I’ll get to that later. I’m tired. It’s not important.” 

When you are accountable to everyone else but yourself, you are telling yourself that you are less than everyone else and that your desires, your dreams are worth much less to you than you think they do.

Take responsibility for where you are in your journey before you reroute your next course.


Growth vs Comfort zone

Get out of your comfort zone. At the risk of sounding cheesy, here’s a cliche: a comfort zone is a beautiful place but nothing ever grows there.

A comfort zone and growth are opposites. Deep down inside of you, you know what you want. But when you truly sit yourself down and compare your reality to your dream, you know that you need to take massive action to bridge the gap between the two.

Ultimately, from living life in the mundane to analyzing the fear of boredom, my blog is about living intentionally. Every step you take in your own life has to come from a place that is wholly you. And that means, not giving up on yourself every time you see someone who has the life that you want. That also means keeping yourself accountable every time you fail to act toward the life you want.

Chasing your dream life by being accountable to yourself Taking action

The lies that you believe about yourself and your worth are what influence your actions. If you believe that you can do something, your actions align with that belief. If you want something, you will work for it – because it becomes a priority for you to have. Even if you hate being outside your comfort zone. 

It will always feel risky to go beyond what you currently experience in this life. The measure of your belief in your dream is not in how your reality aligns with your dreams, but your pursuit of that dream amidst the reality that is opposite to what you dream of.

This pursuit is the biggest way you will grow, so get to work!


A Reminder

Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure.

Marianne Williamson

We are more capable than we allow ourselves to believe. The truth of the matter is that in order for you to chase your dreams and get to where you want to be – you have to let go of the habits, people, situations and beliefs that are standing in the way of your success.

Remind yourself until you fully believe it – I am capable. I am strong. I can do anything I set my mind to.

When excuses come to you about why you can’t do work towards your dream or why things aren’t working out, remember that you are capable and that you are able to put in a little work every day to get you exactly where you want to be.


Fight on (even if it means, alone)

We all want someone to grab our hands and guide us along, but that mindset says that following our dreams is easy and it doesn’t consider that to get to our dreams, we might have to go alone. 

Your dream isn’t meant for your friends or your family. Often times, the people that love us most may not believe in our dreams, for fear that we get hurt if we fail. But if you start working toward your dream thinking you will fail, you’re shooting yourself in the foot before you’ve even started. 

That doesn’t mean you won’t have doubts. Let me repeat: that doesn’t mean you won’t have doubts. That said, push on despite your doubts. Because, honestly, your dreams are worth the fight you have to go through to make them a reality.

There is nothing like waking up and knowing you are living a dream. A real life, wrote-it-down, worked-for-it dream. 

If you want your life to change, you have to work for it. And you will never feel ready. But if a dream is yours, it will weigh on your heart, returning to your mind again and again, until you’ve decided to go forth without the courage and do it anyway.


Signing off, 


Just here to give you some tough love. But I want you to grow and get to where you plan on going. What are some dreams you’ve been procrastinating on? 


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